Start "The Talk" Early

Start "The Talk" Early

Today, kids are exposed to so much information about sex and relationships from the Internet and friends that by the time they approach puberty, they may be familiar with some ideas. And yet, talking about the issues of puberty remains an important job for parents because not all of a child's information comes from reliable sources. The problem is again that in our frum community for some pathetic reason this stuff isn't spoken about when it should be and therefore we end up with alot of problems. Realize, this is creating alot of problems. If you the parents don't feel comfortable talking to your son about it openly, how is he supposed to feel comfortable asking you anything. That leads to him reaching for information from other sources like the internet. He also might not know what's happening to him with all the physical changes and that may cause him worry and have anxiety. Your not being responsible as a parent. Going through all the changes can make him feel scared and alone.

Don't wait for your child to come to you with questions about his or her changing body — that day may never arrive, especially if your child doesn't know it's OK talk to you about this sensitive topic.

Hopefully, as a parent, you've already started talking to your kids about the changes our bodies go through as we grow. Since the toddler years, kids have questions, you can imagine the questions that go through your sons head while reaching puberty.

It's important to answer these questions about puberty honestly and openly. If you can't do it, have someone your son feels comfortable talking to. By the time kids are 8 years old, they should know what physical and emotional changes are associated with puberty. That may seem young, but think about it some girls are wearing training bras by then and some boys' voices begin to change just a few years later.

The Timing With Boys and Girls:

With girls, it's important that parents talk about menstruation before their daughters actually get their periods. If they are unaware of what's happening, girls can be frightened by the sight and location of the blood.

Most girls get their first period when they're 12 or 13 years old, which is about 2 or 2½ years after they begin puberty. But some get their periods as early as age 9, while others get it as late as age 16. Either way as a parent you should be talking about it to them.

On average, boys begin going through puberty a little later than girls, usually around age 10 or 11. But they may begin to develop sexually or have their first ejaculation without looking older.

Just as it helps adults to know what to expect with changes such as moving to a new home or working for a new company, kids should know about puberty ahead of time. It's horrible to know that this subject is kept quiet, omg my son asked me what this sticky stuff on my bed is?!?!?!? Were all human we all go through it. It's sad that we keep this topic so closed.

Let your sons know your available any time to talk and answer his questions. This will make him feel more secure.

Happy parenting! Be the best parent you can be!☺☺☺